F.O.M.A. fear of missing alcohol

Yes, you read that right; it stands for Fear of Missing Alcohol. I can’t take credit for the acronym but I can share that FOMA is a real thing. In my own Alcohol-Free journey, I struggled with feelings of missing out- Would my friends find me boring? Would I find them boring? How would I navigate my day to day life without alcohol? How would I feel when my husband fixed himself a cocktail, or pulled out an ice-cold beer? And it’s not just me; recent studies show that women are closing the gender gap when it comes to drinking. Another study found rates of binge drinking increased by 17.5 percent among women between 2005 and 2012, but rose just 4.9 percent among men for that same period. And it’s easy to understand why: social media tells us that ‘day drinking’ is perfectly acceptable, ‘wine is healthy’ and ‘you deserve it’! You can buy wine art,  wine t-shirts and even Disney (at their California Adventure Park) serves wine! So, it can seem that if you choose to cut back or take a break that you will indeed be missing out.

But let’s examine what you will really be ‘missing out’ on: empty calories, hangovers, poor quality sleep, health consequences, and, let’s face it – LIFE. Drinking might take the edge off at first, but the cost of numbing out is higher than you may realize. Loss of productivity is just one area where drinking takes a toll. In my own life, I found that freeing up my evenings created an enormous amount of time and energy. In fact, since my last drink (Oct. 18, 2015) I have: gone back to school, started a business, and began multiple healthy habits, including journaling and meditation. You can read more about my journey  here in my blog ‘Sobriety is my Superpower’.

If you identify with this longing, this FOMA even a teeny bit, I invite you lean in and explore your relationship with alcohol. You don’t have to do a 12 step program, you don’t have to identify as an ‘alcoholic’ and you may not have to give up drinking forever. It’s a brave new world and there are numerous ways to check in and explore ‘mindful drinking’. Websites like ‘Hip Sobriety’, ‘She Recovers’ and ‘One Year, No Beer’ offer a virtual way to connect with a coach, support group or just take a peek from the sidelines and see if any of this resonates with you. My favorite one of these sites is “This Naked Mind”. I fell in love with Annie Grace, the founder, when I discovered her honest and life-changing course ‘The Alcohol Experiment’. I am privileged and excited to share that I will become one of the first certified coaches with TNMI (This Naked Mind Institute) and will expand my current practice to include Alcohol-Free support! TNM offers a new way to ‘flip the switch’ from missing out to finding freedom and joy by using cognitive dissonance, liminal thinking and real science and research.

What are you really missing out on? I would love to help you lean in and explore how to ‘discover your best self’! Find out more at www.nourishyourbestself.com

Reflections on a new year

January 1, 2019

Like a small child, I love the excitement of the Christmas Holidays, when the tree is finally up, the lights are on, candles are lit and all the decorations are sparkling. But, one of my FAVORITE days is the day all the decorations are put away and the house is barren of the extra trimmings. When I look around and notice my special corner of the world,  it feels like a ‘clean slate’. A chance to begin again. Of course, it won’t be long before the slate is dusty and slightly cluttered, and messy. But isn’t that life? We add things to our days; commitments, purchases, people. And then, when the time is right, we subtract some of those extras and gain new perspective. Sometimes we replace those new, shiny objects with old favorites, and sometimes we leave the new out all year, until it becomes part of who we are in our daily world.

I think it is no accident that our ‘new year’ comes in the dead of winter. A slow start to the new year with time to reflect and build, put down roots and ponder…and the ‘clean slate’.

I am one of ‘those’ people who actually like New Year’s Resolutions, but as I grow in experience I find that rather than placing additional expectations upon myself I would rather open myself up to possibilities. I believe that in life there is no ‘one purpose’ that defines us but rather a series of opportunities and ‘curiosities’ that allow one to stretch and grow and make mistakes and suffer and begin again. So, in the spirit of curiosity, this year I am choosing a theme or focus as opposed to a resolution.


I spent the last year practicing meditation. I have spent the past 2 months practicing gratitude. Both of these things have taught me to be more hopeful, more resilient and less reactionary. I recognize how little I control in this world. And so, by focusing on trust, I hope to let go of some of the tapes in my head that tell me I am ‘not enough’. I hope to practice trust and let my children make their own way and their own mistakes. I choose to trust that my offerings to the world are special and will touch the right people. I will trust my intuition more and therefore take more chances. I will trust that this year will be exactly the year that I need, beautiful, painful, joyous and messy.

I wish for each of you the curiosity to open your hearts to the new year and the trust to expect the best. I hope and pray that our paths will cross and connections will be forged. If you are looking for a community to connect with, I invite you into mine to ‘nourish your best self’. This year I will continue to offer classes and workshops around food and cooking. I am also sharing from my heart a lifestyle course that covers so much more than food and challenges each of us to thrive in our own way. I will be sharing some of the work of Brene Brown with my book club and continuing to connect our community with our merchants through my nourishing foods tours & tastings. I cannot think of a better way to start 2019 than building friendships over real food and real life. I invite you to join me,



Sobriety is my Superpower

In 2005 when the movie ‘The Incredibles’ hit theaters I went with my family to see it. Afterwards, I kept thinking “I want to be Elasti-Girl”. I could totally relate to her being pulled in a million different directions and I wished to have her ‘flexibility’ to handle it all. Working full-time and raising children meant I didn’t have time left over for my projects – not without something else going by the wayside.

And then, in October 2015 I created my own superpower: Sober Girl.

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How to keep your New Year’s Resolution – the strategy of habits

It’s mid-January – is your New Year’s resolution alive and well?

Does anyone else have a friend that seems to breeze through January with her list of ’10 things to accomplish in the New Year’ posted to her refrigerator cheerfully crossing them off one by one without breaking a sweat? And while we admire their discipline and encourage their new endeavors, there is that part of us that is just plain discouraged. How did they give up gluten, master meditation, and purge their closet down to a ‘capsule wardrobe’ in the first 14 days of the new year??

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One Healthy Habit for 2017

How to Nourish Your Best Self in 2017

In keeping with the new year’s tradition, many of us will be making resolutions, setting goals and generally taking stock of where we are at. While January 1st is an arbitrary date, I do believe it is important to acknowledge each year how far we have come and where we want to continue to grow. As a certified nutritionist, I am often asked “what is the one thing I can do to be healthier?” Admittedly, there is more than one thing but, to play along with the new year, here is my one small change you can make for big results in the new year:

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